I’ve always been a kind person! Ever since I can remember I’ve had a deep caring for others, and I’ve always loved to help others even when I struggled with many things in my own life.
For example if someone was new at school it would be me that speaks to them and makes them feel welcome and apart of the group.
I don’t feel like I practice being nice, like I hear some people say that they do themselves… I’m just a nice person deep down, and brought that up, so the world can see with no filter.
The no filter part came as I got older I suppose, after having a spree as a baby, but anyway I don’t feel it’s something I have to practice as it’s auto to me…
It’s much harder for me to be cold, and I would say that is a practice for me over being nice LMAO.
I don’t angry easy, I’m a very calm person… So If I ever flipped out on someone it’s because you’ve constantly pissed me off or crossed a line that is disrespectful, or I do not accept.
I show compassion to a level that is up with Everest!
I understand that everyone is going through something, I understand more than most what it feels like to struggle on a daily with things that are out of your control.
I’m very patient and understanding & like I said it takes a lot for me to be angry with someone and to be honest the current me talks it out over shouting… Which is wasted energy?
I feel like it’s a lot harder to be nicer to yourself, because many of us let our brains be the master instead of the servant.
What I mean by that is taking everything I think about and believing it to be true, like I’m ugly, or I’m a bad person because I woke up late crap like that.
Self-criticism in other words, My past was plagued with this, and I used to be so harsh on myself towards performances and things that I care about to win…
Which was mainly sports orientated stuff when I was a kid, this would plague me though especially when I felt under pressure with expectation and then from myself.
Along with the fact that I have DCD (GTS) which makes everything harder for me to do daily than I’m sure 99.9 percent of you reading this right now!
It’s only when I started noting what I was telling myself that I realised it was an issue and this is what this is all about below.
You Story = Your Script
I first became fully aware of what I was doing back in high school after my teammates and I had worked hard after school for months practicing to win the football on sports day, only on game time to lose every game!
Although this was a team sport & back then I was not in an attacking position to score or anything, I took a lot of blame on myself and more than I deserved to be honest.
So what I did was a wrote down all of my thoughts at the time about how bad that I thought that I did, then I started thinking about it did this actually happen?
For example, did I not scream for my defenders to come back and defend rather than rush forward to score, and they came back too late? YES
Did I not make tackle after tackle, but the wave of attacks was too much as they tripled up on me? YES
Did I bottle it on the pitch and do less than my best on the day and get stage fright? NO
It’s at this point I switched the script and took the positive out of what I did myself, and although we lost every match me myself never played bad in any of those games, and never gave less than 100 percent of what I had back then.
I used to be a person that would say I can’t do this & I can’t do that!
I changed the script over time and told myself yes I can if I want to, and if It’s really in my heart to do so.
Because it’s nothing but the truth and even though at school you’re forced to do things you don’t want to do, and for me things that at the time I needed help with and would still need help with now!
My attitude would be much better now as I would always speak good words to myself because the reason is the DCD not me, that is out of my control, what is in m control is how I respond to it and what I give myself back for the next time, this is how I improved my mind and got out of the negative way of thinking.
How You Can Track Your Own Thoughts
If you want to track your thoughts, you can use anything that you can jot notes down on like a journal for example.
Like I said before I have DCD, so I don’t write very well at all, and it hurts my hands so mine was digital based, but the main thing is you note it down rather than having it down on memory as you can easily forget and will forget overtime.
The things you’ll want to note down are the time of day you exp this negative thoughts, the trigger of that emo thought, where you are, how it made you feel, if anyone else was there with you etc.
Then all you do then is think about how you can reframe that thought and come up with a kinder thought to tell yourself or for you to envision and write that down.
That’s all you need to do. Do it as often as you can during your day, then when you think like that overtime again you won’t have to write nothing down… You’ll auto make the shift in your mind without hesitation.
I really enjoyed sharing this with you guys. Please do let me know though…
How Kind Are You To Yourself?
How Can You Be Kinder To Others?
How Are You Feeling Today?
Until We Meet Again, Ciao
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